Reported Offense: A report of a sexual assault was reported to the Office of the Dean of Students at the University of Virginia on September 25, 2015 at 12:00 pm.
It is reported that a male subject, known to the victim, used alcohol to facilitate a sexual assault on the female student in an unknown fraternity house.
A description of the subject was not disclosed.
The following is a list of forms of sexual assault. They are also a violation of the University of Virginia's Standards of Conduct:
- Constantly filling a person's cup with alcohol, whether or not she/he has asked for more, in order to gain her/his compliance.
- Spiking a person's drink with drugs so that she/he cannot resist or will not recall the incident.
- Isolating someone so that they have no options for leaving a dangerous situation, including someone who is unfamiliar with the area so that she/he feels that it would be frightening to leave.
- Offering to accompany someone home or to your place "for safety" in order to isolate them from their friends and then forcing yourself on her/him.
- Restraining, choking, holding someone by their wrists, pushing her/him down, in order to "have sex with them" when they don't want to have sex with you.
- Using emotional coercion (threatening to spread rumors about her/his reputation, sexuality, gender identity status, etc.) to gain sexual access.
- Badgering so persistently that your target complies only to "get it over with" and get away.
- Having sex with an unconscious person (telling yourself that "everyone does it" or "she/he won't remember anyway").
- Treat everyone with kindness and respect.
- Make sure that you have consent. Consent is clearly, freely, and willingly given. It is a yes that is reflected in actions, tone of voice, and words, not the absence of no. A yes given under pressure or when there is no alternative, is not a yes.
- People who are incapacitated by drugs or alcohol cannot give consent. A person who appears to be mildly under the influence may actually be in an alcohol blackout. Do not assume that someone who "acts" this way is conscious of what they are doing. Learn how to know the difference as a way to increase your own safety and that of your friends.
- Do not subscribe to traditional gender roles and sexual orientation beliefs that support the idea that heterosexual men are more powerful and dominant than women or gay, bisexual, or gender role non-conforming men.
- Do not engage in, support, or encourage sexual harassment including sexist jokes.
- Be active in supporting a safe, respectful, and equitable community. Hold people accountable for their abusive behavior, sexist jokes, and use of degrading language.
- Safely intervene and/or call for help if you witness disrespectful or inappropriate behavior, or a violent crime. Plan in advance: discuss how you might do this in conversations with your friends, using different scenarios, when you aren't facing a potential crisis. Remember the three D's of Green Dot: Distract, Delegate, Direct.
- Invite a Green Dot facilitator to your residence hall, suite, organization to present on bystander intervention, or increase your understanding of these issues by inviting a peer educator from One Less or One in Four to present to your organization.
RISK REDUCTION STRATEGIES
Trust your intuition--it's right most of the time:
- If you feel that your relationship is unhealthy it probably is.
- If someone is behaving disrespectfully or making you feel creepy, it's easier to walk away before a situation becomes physical (even if it's uncomfortable or embarrassing) than it is to escape from an assault.
- If you feel as though someone may be stalking you, ask someone who understands these issues (see below) to help you clarify what's going on and to develop a safety plan.
- If you feel afraid, utilize transportation resources, such as Safe Ride (434 242-1122).
- If you feel threatened on Grounds or in nearby areas, look for a blue light emergency phone or call 911.
- You have the right to defend your body, your personal integrity, yourself.
- Do not second-guess yourself or the intentions of the person harming you. If you have indicated that you do not want to engage in a particular sexual activity and your partner ignores you, take this as a sign that he or she has no intention of taking your feelings into consideration. This will help you decide what to do next.
- There is no shame in being a victim. Talk to someone who has knowledge of community and University resources. If you are in the middle of a terrible situation, there are people who can help you and who may be able to reduce the impact on your well-being and help you end the abuse.
- If you are being stalked, tell everyone you know. Use the stalking tracking form on the UVa Sexual Violence Education and Resources website and ask your friends to keep an eye out for your stalker.
- Your voice and your body are your best weapons. Learn effective ways to use them by taking a self-defense class, and bring a friend with you.
The administration, faculty and staff of the University of Virginia are here for you. If you have experienced interpersonal violence (IPV), stalking, and/or sexual violence, we encourage you to share this information with us so that we can provide you with support, resources, options, medical attention and academic accommodations. You can read about these resources, the University's policies, and learn how this violence might impact you or your friends on our Sexual Violence Education and Resources website:http://www.virginia.edu/sexualviolence/.
Emergency/Crisis Resources (24/7):
Sexual Assault Resource Agency (434) 977-7273
Shelter for Help in Emergency (434) 293-8509
Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS)
After Hours Emergency Line (434) 972-7273
Business Hours Line (434) 243-5150
Dean on Call (Call UVa Police and ask for the Dean on Call): (434) 924-7166
UVa Emergency Department/Sexual Assault Nurse Examiners: (434) 924-2231
Family Violence and Sexual Assault Hotline of Virginia: (800) 838-8238
Ongoing Support from Confidential Resources:
Department of Student Health
CAPS (434) 243-5150
General Medicine (434) 982-3915
Gynecology (434) 924-2773
Maxine Platzer Lynn Women's Center
Counseling Services (434) 982-2252
Gender Violence and Social Change (434) 982-2774
Ongoing Support (Non-Confidential) and Guidance, including academic and housing accommodations:
Office of the Dean of Students (434) 924-7133
Executive Vice President and Chief Operating Officer Hogan approved distribution of this message.